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Guidance for Christian Women: Is it wrong to not want kids?


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You’re a woman and you don’t want kids.  Does this mean you’re some flawed freak?  Certainly not.  There is no law that says all women must want kids.  In fact, there are many very sound reasons to not want kids, and in this post, we’ll discuss some of the more common ones and perhaps some of these reasons will help you make sense out of what you’re feeling. Realize that beating yourself up over not wanting kids is like shaming yourself for liking chocolate—it’s pointless and self-destructive.  Rather than criticize yourself for something that’s wired in, view your preferences as the educational things that they are.  Your preferences change a lot as you go through life, and your current preferences help you understand who you are, how you think, and what your priorities are.  The better you understand yourself, the easier maturing becomes.  But to understand yourself well, you have to stop telling yourself who you should be and accept who you actually are.  Read more of this post

Gentle & Quiet: The Ideal Wife According to Peter


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Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. (1 Pet. 3:1-6)

Whenever we’re reading the words of humans, we need to read with caution. What we call the Bible is a collection of documents written by various men over a span of hundreds of years. None of these men were perfect. Like us today, their beliefs about God were tainted by cultural superstitions and biases. For example, Peter lived in a male-dominated society. He was taught from the cradle that he was the superior sex. God disagrees, of course, but we have to cut Peter and all of his fellow Jews slack in this area because we humans believe what our parents teach us. Those of us who have been blessed not to grow up in a culture which views most people as subhuman lowlifes will have a hard time appreciating what it was like for these New Testament Jewish men to comprehend all of the radical changes that Yahweh’s New Covenant introduced. Read more of this post

Clothes, Makeup & Jewelry: Guidance for Christian Women


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Is wearing makeup a sin? Is wearing jewelry a sin? Are there certain hairstyles and clothing styles that are inappropriate for Christian women? These are the questions we are going to answer in this post.

The Bible is not an infallible book. It contains documents that were written by imperfect human beings. As a result, some of the teachings and conclusions we find people drawing in the Bible are, well, wrong. Read more of this post

Stop Comparing Yourself to the Proverbs 31 Woman

Stop Comparing Yourself to the Proverbs 31 Woman

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For all you women who are trying to please God but feel utterly despaired every time someone whips out Proverbs 31: take heart! God is not comparing you to this fictitious female, nor should you be interpreting this passage as His personal calling on your life. To put this passage in perspective, you need to put the whole book of Proverbs in perspective. A proverb is simply a saying. The Holy Spirit will make it clear to you when a particular proverb has any value for you in a given moment. But let’s be clear about the kind of effect the Holy Spirit’s Voice has on us. When He speaks to your heart, you don’t end up feeling beat down, discouraged, and hopelessly flawed. So as you’re reading through Proverbs 31, if it feels like someone is shoveling wet cement onto your back and you’re feeling more and more burdened with every word you read, then you’re not hearing from the Holy Spirit. You’re hearing from that nasty old deceiver Satan, or one of his many sordid friends. Read more of this post

Does God Love Women Less?


It’s not hard to find passages of Scripture to support the idea that God views women like objects. The ancient Jewish culture obviously favored the male gender and when God handed Moses His Laws in the wilderness, He could have done something to balance the scales. Instead we see women being declared unclean and driven out of the camp every time they menstruate as if they’ve committed some kind of crime. Who came up with the idea of making women bleed every month in the first place? God. Who then declared that periods should be viewed as filthy and a reason to temporarily exile women from the main community? God. Thanks for loving on us. Read more of this post