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Understanding Your Reaction to Sexual Assault: Triggers & Pleasure

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CAUTION: This post is speaking to sexual assault victims.  Some graphic descriptions are used in order to address specific concerns regarding molestation experiences.

You’ve been sexually assaulted. Maybe you were subjected to some form of molestation, or maybe you were full on raped. Either way, in the midst of that enormously upsetting moment, you were distressed to notice that part of you actually enjoyed the sensations you were experiencing. What on earth does this mean? If your penis erects in the middle of some man touching it, does that mean you’re some little pervert who actually enjoys being molested? If you feel some tingly rush of excitement when a man fondles your breasts or starts taking off your clothes, does that mean that you actually enjoy being violated? If you start having an orgasm in the middle of being raped, or if you find that part of you wants to prolong the experience of being groped, does that mean you’re sick and twisted? If you are currently stressing over these kinds of concerns, then this post is going to help to put your mind at ease. Read more of this post

Understanding Your Passive Response to Assault: A Lack of Resistance Does Not Indicate Cowardice or Enjoyment

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In this post, we are speaking to those who have been physically or sexually assaulted and are now struggling to process the fact that they cooperated with their attackers.

Maybe you were raped. Maybe you were molested. Maybe you were physically beaten, tortured, or in some other way degraded. Whatever happened to you, if you responded submissively to those who assaulted you and made an effort to cooperate instead of resist, it is quite natural to look back on your behavior and feel that you made the wrong choice. After all, the world celebrates the strong and it has nothing nice to say about the weak. If you simply went along with your abusers, does that mean you are a spineless coward? If you didn’t even attempt to prevent someone from sexually assaulting you, does that mean that part of you was enjoying the experience? Certainly not. Read more of this post

Marriage Solutions: Overcoming Sexual Trauma as a Team

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With sexual abuse running rampant in the world today, it is very easy to end up with a spouse who has some extremely negative associations with sexual intercourse and everything that comes with it. Because God has equipped our brains with some very powerful defense mechanisms, it is easy for your spouse to honestly not realize they have a problem until the two of you are in the middle of things. When traumatic memories resurface, it’s very natural for people to have extreme reactions. Being on the receiving end of those reactions can produce some very convenient material for demons to try and use to drive both you and your spouse away from each other. But division and strife and a bunch of hurt feelings are not what God wants for you. Regardless of what kind of mess has already been made, there are ways to move forward and resolve these issues as a team. Read more of this post