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Category Archives: Gender/Identity Struggles

Real Help for Your Identity Crisis: Is it possible that you’re Jesus Christ?

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“Could it be that I am actually Jesus Christ?”  This is one of those loaded questions which many Christians will respond to with hostility and scoffing.  But we understand that for some people, this is a sincere and distressing dilemma.  If you are personally hearing voices telling you that you are Jesus, or if you can’t shake a nagging sense of conviction or some strong premonition that you are being called to relive the mission Jesus had and function as a kind of spiritual Messiah, then this post is going to give you the information you need to put this identity crisis to rest, and it will also arm you with some very helpful discernment skills for the future. Read more of this post

Symbolic Genders: Understanding Trauma Driven Homosexuality

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The topic of homosexuality has been so badly handled by the Christian community that all you have to do is use the words “gay” and “God” in the same sentence and everyone gets ready for war.  In this post, we’re going to discuss a very common way that people become sexually attracted to their own gender.  If you’re all caught up in gay pride and you just love being gay, then don’t bother with this post because it won’t help you.  This post is only going to be useful for folks who are feeling distressed by their homosexual desires and wondering how they got where they are.  Read more of this post

Are all sexual perverts going to Hell?

Are all sexual perverts going to Hell?

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There is something about the mention of sexual sins in the New Testament that triggers a selective memory response in Christians. We know there are certain verses which specifically say that all sexual perverts will go to Hell and we like to refer to them whenever the topic comes up. We don’t recite the actual verses, we just say something general like “God says all perverts will go to Hell.” We do this because we have forgotten what the verses really say. If we remembered them accurately, we’d stop quoting them so often because when they’re isolated from the rest of Scripture, these verses actually say that we are all going to Hell. Read more of this post

Gender Dysphoria: Confronting the Lies that Fuel the Crisis (Help for Transsexuals)

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No one is born thinking one gender is better than another.  It is our experiences after birth which teach us how to assign values to the concepts of male and female.  Kim is a good example here.  Kim was the only female in a house full of males.  Kim’s father greatly favored his four sons while virtually ignoring his daughter.  After years of watching males get all of the attention, affection, rewards and privileges, Kim comes to the very logical conclusion that females are utterly inferior.  By the time she’s an adult, Kim has gone years without her basic emotional needs being met.  Her stressed mind has formed a very strong association between being female and being an outcast.  So Kim wants to be a man.  She really wants to be a man.  As far as she is concerned, being male is her only hope of getting her basic needs met.  As long as she is stuck in a woman’s body, she feels deeply distressed and inferior.  Read more of this post

Help for Sex Addicts: Understanding Symbolic Sex

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So, how’s your sex life going? Are you even supposed to be having a sex life right now? Most sex addicts are not. When we are addicted to sex, we can’t scrape up the self-control needed to fuss around with things like real love and marital commitment. We feel an overwhelming need to keep that intercourse coming, which is why many of us are mowing our way through a long list of sexual partners. We’re not in it for the relationship, we’re in it for the sex. Some of us will put some effort into the relationship in order to make it last so we can put off the trouble of having to find a new partner. But others of us couldn’t care less about the relationship.

Let’s talk about your sexual style. Perhaps you are the woman who just can’t wait to tear her clothes off and thrust herself into any available pair of male arms. Or perhaps you are the guy who is addicted to rape. Your favorite prowling ground is party scenes where you can get your victims looped on drugs and then have your way with them. Sexual addictions come in a wide variety of forms, and yet the irony is that when we’re this crazed for sex, it’s really not about the sex anymore. For sex addicts, sex has become a symbol of something else, and that something else is what they’re really after. The first step in healing from your addiction is to identify what it is that sex symbolizes for you. Read more of this post

Misdirected Sex Drive: Why do I feel aroused by inappropriate targets?

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We use the term sexual target to define what turns you on sexually. The world is full of potential targets, but God puts out a very narrow definition of what appropriate targets are. For men, women are the only appropriate targets. But not just any women. God says you’re not supposed to be lusting after some other man’s wife or little girls or your mother. The list goes on and on, and there are similar restrictions for women. Women are supposed to be sexually aroused by men. Not little boys, not their friend’s boyfriends, not their grandfathers—you get the idea. God is a real stickler when it comes to defining morally acceptable sexual desires and activities, and then He slaps the label of perverse onto anything that falls outside of the morally acceptable zone. Well, now what? Read more of this post