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Understanding Repentance

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TWO WAYS TO JUDGE

God judges you by your soul’s response to Him.  Once God establishes a relationship with you, you constantly make choices about how you will treat Him in that relationship, and those choices are what determine whether God is pleased or displeased with you.

Humans judge you by how you behave—especially by how you behave towards other humans.  Humans have strong opinions about how you ought to treat them, and if you don’t meet their expectations, then they dislike you.  Read more of this post

Dealing with Death: Eight Lies that Keep Us Stuck in the Past

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Someone has died and instead of moving on with your life, you’re obsessing.  You’re stuck in the past.  You’re feeling obligated to treat the dead person as if they are still very much a part of your life.  There are many reasons why people choose to respond this way to death, and none of them are good for the soul.  If you’re not ready to leave your stagnating position, then this post is just going to make you mad.  We’re dishing out tough love here, and that means we’re going to blast you with a lot of bluntly stated truths with very little padding in between.  Our purpose in using a tough love approach is to cover a lot of ground in a little space while arming you with a ton of good food for thought. But if you’re not ready to do some deep thinking, then you’re probably going to feel overwhelmed very fast and you’ll want to go off and sulk or send us a snarky message instead of embracing the truths that we’re going to lay out for you. Maturity is something we must choose—it’s not something that can be forced upon us.  The longer we try to avoid it, the more miserable we become.  But once we do reach the point where we are tired of being miserable, then there is great hope to be had.  No matter where you’re stuck, you can move forward by gaining some new perspectives and making some wise soul choices.  Read more of this post

Understanding Conviction: Invitations to Engage

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You’re thinking about getting an abortion and God convicts you not to.  Is He worried that you’re going to snuff out a life prematurely?  No, because He hasn’t placed that power in your hands.  You can’t mess up God’s plans for another soul.  You can’t cheat them out of opportunities that He wanted them to have.  God isn’t convicting you because He’s worried that you’re about to mess up His universe.  He’s convicting you to force you to choose between obedience and rebellion.  He’s after engagement.  He doesn’t need your help. Read more of this post

Understanding Divine Judgment: How God Ranks Sin

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Here’s a classic question that humans get stuck on: who are the worst sinners?  Who are the real scumbags?  Who are the folks that we’re justified in looking down our noses at?  You see, even though we are all going to be judged individually by God, we love spending our lives playing comparison games.  It makes Ben feel superior to look down on Rex and say to himself, “At least I don’t do what he does.”  Okay, so Ben doesn’t do some of the things that Rex does.  But how relevant is this fact going to be when Ben is receiving his judgment from God in eternity?  Is God going to whip out a list of all of Rex’s activities and say, “Rex is the golden standard by which I’ve decided to judge all humans, so as long as you did better than him, we’re good”?  No, God isn’t going to say anything like this.  Rex’s name isn’t even going to come up when Ben is being evaluated by God.  Instead, God’s going to say, “When you were on earth, I spoke to you many times.  I’m now going to judge you by how you responded to Me when I communicated to your soul.”  Read more of this post

Help for Stressing Christians: Is God punishing you?

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Believing that God is mad at you when He really isn’t results in all kinds of needless angst and misery. Believing that God is very difficult to  please is what drives many sincere souls to get stuck in endless confession sessions and cycles of self-persecution.  And yet the reality is that every serious Christian spends a lot of time fretting over problems that don’t really exist between them and God.  Why is this?  Because before you can accurately assess God’s current view of you, you must first understand some basic principles about how God relates to you, and those principles are rarely discussed by the Church. Read more of this post

Relating to God: Recognizing the Trap of Symbolic Pain

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Humans are big on symbolism.  This means that much of what you do and say in life is an attempt to communicate messages that are quite unrelated to the things you’re actually doing and saying.  For example, when Holly hears her boyfriend Todd say he loves blondes, Holly goes out and bleaches her brown hair blonde.  She does this not because she wants to change her hair, but because she wants to keep a secure hold on Todd’s affection.  When she then asks him “Do you like my hair?” what’s she’s really asking is, “Have I gained more of your approval by adjusting myself to be a better match to your preferences?”  For Holly, dyeing her hair was a symbolic act that was meant to communicate to Todd how much his approval means to her and how much she wants him in her life.  Read more of this post

Repentant Sinners: Is it wrong to stop feeling bad about the past?

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Let’s say you do something bad—really bad. You knew better, and you had plenty of resources to resist the temptation, but it was one of those moments where you just said, “Shut up, God, I’m doing this.” So you did it. And it was bad. And now some other people are really messed up because of what you did. But then you reached the point of sincere repentance. You stopped with the rebellion and you are now back in alignment with God, sincerely wanting Him to have His way in your life. There are now consequences for what you did in your life and in the lives of others. And in the midst of those consequences, you feel really terrible. You just feel perpetually awful about what you did. Well, isn’t this how you’re supposed to feel? After all, you sinned intentionally. So if you did something super bad, isn’t there supposed to be some limit to how joyful you can ever be after that? If you just go skipping forth in joyous freedom, isn’t that another form of sin? This is what many Christians believe: they think that once someone does something bad enough, it’s wrong for that person to ever make a full recovery, let alone soar to epic heights of soul peace and freedom. Well, what does God say? Read more of this post

Help for Murderers: What To Do When Your Victims Are Haunting You

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You took a life. Maybe it was accidental. Maybe it was on purpose. Maybe you were trying to help. Maybe you were being malicious. Either way, the aftermath of such events can be far worse than you ever expected. Some murderers are plagued with horrific nightmares in which their victims play a central role. Others see ghosts of their victims in their waking hours. Others keep having flashbacks from the murder sequence. You walk into a room and see the woman you killed lying there with your knife in her back. You’re trying to make dinner and suddenly those tomatoes are the bloody remains of the baby you aborted. You’re driving and that little boy you killed suddenly appears standing in the road in front of you. You’re standing there trying to think and you feel your buddy tap you on the shoulder—the same one you turned around and knifed because you thought he was someone else. You’re in bed at night and you hear a voice saying she’ll get back at you for what you did. You fall asleep and have terrifying dreams of your victim leaping upon you with vengeful hate. What does all of this mean? Are you losing your sanity? No, you’re not, but there are definitely some issues that need to be dealt with. Victim hauntings are terrifying things and they will send your stress levels soaring through the roof and stop your ability to function until they’re dealt with. So how can we get the dead to stop hounding you? First we need to clear up some false beliefs you have about the dead. Then we need to talk about you and God. He has positive reasons for letting this whole terror package happen to you, and once you get aligned with His program, you’re going to find yourself in a much better place. So let’s get started. Read more of this post

Understanding Unpardonable Sins: Lies vs. Truth

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THE LIES

It is commonly assumed that there are certain kinds of sins which God absolutely will not forgive no matter what. The idea is that if you commit one of these sins one time, you’re eternally damned. Different Christian denominations and individuals put forth various candidates for the “unforgivable list.” Popular choices which are based on various passages of Scripture are publicly disowning Christ (Lk. 12:8-10), refusing to forgive someone else (Mt. 6:14-15), blaspheming the Holy Spirit (Mt. 12:30-32, Mk. 3:28-30, Lk. 12:8-10), and intentionally sinning after salvation (Heb. 6:4-8, Heb. 10:26-29). Read more of this post

Help For Murderers: Finding Peace With A God Who Loves You

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You took a life. You murdered. Maybe you killed just one person, maybe you killed several, maybe you killed many. Maybe your victim was still in the womb and not even born. Maybe your victim was very young, very old, weak, or in some way defenseless. Maybe you assaulted them first.  Maybe you tried to make them suffer as much as possible.  Maybe you knew them and they trusted you. Maybe you killed to get accepted by someone or prove your courage or defend your country or get revenge or find peace or protect yourself or save your reputation or make some money. Maybe you told yourself it was okay to kill at the time because you were trying to be merciful, or because you were righting the scales of justice, or because you were just doing your duty. In this world, the circumstances and motives for murder vary widely. Some kill by accident, some kill intentionally. Some act on impulse, others carefully plan their movements far in advance. Some actually do the killing, while others play assisting roles. Whatever your particular role was in the murder you committed, the question now is: how do you get right with God? Does God forgive murder? Is there any way to get out from under the brick load of guilt, or have you fallen under some kind of Divine curse which will prevent you from ever experiencing soul peace and joy?

Of course God forgives murder. And if you find within yourself a sincere desire to be pleasing in God’s sight, then there is great hope for you. You are not lost, nor are you cursed. You are standing at a fork in the road, and there is a choice you need to make. One path leads to peace with God, the other leads to bitter despair. God is calling you down the road that leads to Him, and in this post, we’ll give you the information you need to respond to His call. Read more of this post