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Real Help for Your Identity Crisis: Is it possible that you’re Jesus Christ?

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“Could it be that I am actually Jesus Christ?”  This is one of those loaded questions which many Christians will respond to with hostility and scoffing.  But we understand that for some people, this is a sincere and distressing dilemma.  If you are personally hearing voices telling you that you are Jesus, or if you can’t shake a nagging sense of conviction or some strong premonition that you are being called to relive the mission Jesus had and function as a kind of spiritual Messiah, then this post is going to give you the information you need to put this identity crisis to rest, and it will also arm you with some very helpful discernment skills for the future. Read more of this post

Dealing with Distressing Voices & Visions: Validation, Explanations & Hope for Schizophrenics

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Suppose you look down and you see a huge cockroach sitting on your abdomen.  The thing is twice as big as your foot and uglier than sin.  How are you going to respond to this situation?  You’re certainly not going to just stand there calmly.  You’re going to freak out.  You’re going to fly into whatever emergency responses feel most natural to you based on your temperament and your cultural upbringing.

Now suppose that no one else can see that big old cockroach except you.  How does this change your situation?  It doesn’t change a thing.  In the first place, you don’t realize that you’re the only one who can see the thing.  In the second place, you don’t give a darn about what other people do or don’t see because you’ve got a gargantuan cockroach crouching on your abdomen and who knows what malicious plans it’s cooking up? Getting that hideous monstrosity off of your body is going to be your number one priority, and based on the feedback your senses are receiving, it makes perfect sense to you to grab a knife and try to stab the thing to death.  Now because the cockroach isn’t really there in physical form, your knife goes right through it and you end up stabbing yourself in the gut.  But when the pain signals flood into your brain, are you going to realize what’s really happening?  No, because you’re out of your mind with panic at the moment, and you’ll mistake the pain for evidence that that huge ugly creature is starting to eat you.  So while you’re bleeding all over the place, you’re also screaming and waving that knife, and if someone else doesn’t rush to your aid and get that weapon away from you, you just might end up killing yourself. Read more of this post

Pedophiles vs. Child Molesters: Understanding the Difference

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To say that all pedophiles are child molesters is like saying all straights are rapists.  Pedophilia is a sexual orientation.  Molestation is a form of sexual assault.  Being sexually attracted to children is not at all the same as wanting to assault them.

UNDERSTANDING PEDOPHILES

While many gays and straights like to publicly broadcast their sexual preferences, pedophiles tend to keep their private feelings about sex to themselves.  What’s wrong with that?  It’s hardly classy or appropriate to dump your hormonal viewpoints and urges all over the world wide web.  A straight man who tells the world how he is lusting after his female coworker is behaving quite immaturely.  People who post pictures and videos of themselves being physically intimate with their lovers are just cheapening something which is meant to be cherished.  Our personal sexual desires are not things we should be waving about like flags.  So the fact that a pedophile doesn’t walk down the street saying, “Hey, everyone, I’m really turned on by kids,” hardly makes that man a creep.  Instead, he’s modeling a level of self-restraint that we could all use to imitate.  Read more of this post

Families Shattered by Molestation: How to Start the Recovery Process

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Family members molesting other family members is a far more common situation than anyone would like it to be.  Often these situations remain unknown and/or intentionally ignored until someone in the family system hits their limit with the horror of it all and drags the whole sordid affair into the spotlight.  At that point, family members are forced to respond to both the victim and the perpetrator.  But how exactly should you respond to such a situation?  Where do you even start?  In this kind of situation, there are two main strategies that can speed up the healing process, and these strategies are best used simultaneously. Read more of this post

Facing Your Fear of Reality: Recovering from Extreme Psychological Escapism

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After a long day at the office, Frank likes to unwind with a couple of hours of gaming when he gets home.  Then he checks in with his friends and often hangs out with them, feeling recharged from his solo play time.  But when Mike gets home from work, he spends the rest of his evening glued to his computer screen.  The only friends Mike chats with are the crew members of his online gaming team.  He’s never met any of them, and they’ve never met him.  They’re all interacting with each other as their fictitious game personas and Mike loves it. Read more of this post

Dealing with Parental Abandonment

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Parental abandonment comes in many different forms.  Sometimes the parents are physically absent, other times they are emotionally or mentally absent.  Sometimes they are consistently absent, other times they are only absent at the times we need them the most.  Regardless of what the specific circumstances are, the absence of a parent often results in a feeling of psychological starvation.  Children who grow up without fathers develop an insatiable craving for fatherly attention and affirmation.  Children who grow up without mothers end up craving motherly attention. This craving often results in very dysfunctional behavior patterns as adults try to find other adults who will role-play the missing parent for them.  As these efforts keep failing—which they will—there is continuous envy towards those who grew up with two attentive parents in the home.  Read more of this post

Symbolic Genders: Understanding Trauma Driven Homosexuality

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The topic of homosexuality has been so badly handled by the Christian community that all you have to do is use the words “gay” and “God” in the same sentence and everyone gets ready for war.  In this post, we’re going to discuss a very common way that people become sexually attracted to their own gender.  If you’re all caught up in gay pride and you just love being gay, then don’t bother with this post because it won’t help you.  This post is only going to be useful for folks who are feeling distressed by their homosexual desires and wondering how they got where they are.  Read more of this post

Help for Aggressive Critics: Why You Need to Verbally Trump Others

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Are you one of those argumentative Christians who is always looking for a chance to shut someone down with your version of God’s truth?  Do you listen in on other people’s conversations, hoping that someone will show some ignorance on a subject that you feel you’re an expert on so you can barge into the conversation and pound that fool into the ground with your brilliance?  Do you find yourself getting all agitated and flush-faced when someone makes a comment about God which you believe is wrong?  Are you quick to break out a mocking tone and condescending language as you’re explaining your view to someone else?  Do you inwardly panic when someone points out a major flaw in your argument that you don’t know how to counter? Do you understand why you’re such a dominating pill in verbal conversations?  You have your reasons.  Humans always have reasons for what they do, and those reasons make sense to them.  Read more of this post

Understanding Your Perverse Fantasies: A Sign of Stress, Not Defectiveness

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There’s a widespread belief among Christians that if a man’s spiritual priorities were in the right order, he wouldn’t have certain kinds of thoughts, he wouldn’t be hooked on porn, and he wouldn’t have certain nasty desires welling up within him 24/7.  And yet the truth is that a man can have excellent priorities and be embracing all the right soul attitudes while he is being plagued with some very dark mental fantasies.  The psychological principles we’re going to discuss in this post can be very helpful to anyone who is feeling tormented with perverse fantasies of any kind.  When you’re obsessing over certain kinds of themes, you can easily end up shunned by both the mainstream Christian community as well as the world at large.  Happily neither of these human groups are accurately conveying God’s assessment of you.  And once you understand a few basic principles about where perverse fantasies come from, you can stop treating yourself like a worm and become more receptive to the compassion and help God is offering you. Read more of this post

Are all sexual perverts going to Hell?

Are all sexual perverts going to Hell?

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There is something about the mention of sexual sins in the New Testament that triggers a selective memory response in Christians. We know there are certain verses which specifically say that all sexual perverts will go to Hell and we like to refer to them whenever the topic comes up. We don’t recite the actual verses, we just say something general like “God says all perverts will go to Hell.” We do this because we have forgotten what the verses really say. If we remembered them accurately, we’d stop quoting them so often because when they’re isolated from the rest of Scripture, these verses actually say that we are all going to Hell. Read more of this post