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Returning to the God You Divorced: Guidance for Christians


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When we first begin our relationship with God, we bring a list of ultimatums with us.  That list contains a bunch of behaviors which we won’t tolerate God engaging in.  That list defines the limits our of willingness to be dominated by Him. Sure, we’ll stay as long as God doesn’t engage in some unpardonable sin.  But if He does cross certain lines with us, we’re divorcing Him, and it will be all His fault. Read more of this post

Real Talk for Angry Rebels: Negotiating Your Return to God


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Once upon a time, you called yourself a Christian and you believed in the Christian Gods: Yahweh, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.  Then some nasty thing happened to you, your quality of life tanked, you blamed God, and made your best attempt at cutting Him out of your life.  Now a bunch of time has passed, your life is still lousy, and you’ve decided that this no God thing just isn’t working for you.  So you want to come back and take another run at Christianity.  If God would finally agree to play nice, you and He could get along well, right?  Well, no, this isn’t how it works.  God isn’t going to agree to play nice, but He is going to say that if you don’t submit to Him as the Supreme Authority in your life, you’re going to end up in a situation that makes your current troubles seem like Heaven by comparison.  Still want to come back? Read more of this post

Sticking It To God: What Every Really Angry Soul Needs to Know


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In our line of work, we come across a lot of souls who are furious at God. The reason is always the same: they’ve been brutally hurt by Him one way or another and they don’t know what to do with the pain. What’s really great about these souls is that they aren’t playing the usual Christian game of trying to downplay God’s role in their misery. Really vocal God haters tend to have a strong grasp of God’s sovereignty—a fact that could really take them to some awesome places if it was properly applied. But while they usually have a great grip on sovereignty, they tend to have no confidence in God’s goodness. Instead of realizing that He has positive motivations for doing what He is doing to their lives, they write Him off as a despicable Ogre and decide that they want nothing to do with Him. At least some of them decide this. But others take a very aggressive approach and obsess over finding a way that they can try and get revenge on God. They want to somehow hurt Him to the degree that He has hurt them—and perhaps a skosh more. This obsession with getting their own back often results in some pretty absurd ideas about how they will personally experience Hell, and it is those misunderstandings that we want to clear up in this post for all of you little dears who are currently on the “I hate God” track. Read more of this post

Stonewalling an Ogre God: Recognizing the Errors in Our Logic


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We shut down on God for two basic reasons: because we think that He’s rejected us, or because we’re rejecting Him. In this post, we’re dealing with the second motivation.

Our reasons for rejecting God boil down to a critical loss of confidence that He is truly for us in life. Once we believe that God is not really on our side, we believe that He is actually against us. Oh sure, we might say with our lips, “God loves me,” but inwardly we’re thinking, “Yeah, right.” If God loving us means that He’s going to continuously torment us, what good is it? This isn’t love, it’s sadistic abuse. If all we are to God is some object to torture, then why do we want anything to do with Him? If trusting Him means setting ourselves up for more pain, why do it? Read more of this post

Cussing God Out: How Our Meltdowns Move Us Forward


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If you keep jabbing a man with a sharp stick, how would you expect him to react? You’d expect him to get madder and madder until he finally lets you have it. When he calls you a bunch of nasty names and demands to know why you’re acting like such a creep by poking him with your stupid stick, would you find his attitude unreasonable? Not hardly. As another human, you know how painful it would be to get jabbed with a stick like the one you’re holding. You know that if it was you on the receiving end of those pokes, you’d be just as upset.

Now in such a scenario, there’s only one reason you’d be poking a man with your stick: because you’re trying to get him to flip out on you. We see this kind of behavior at work with bullies all the time: they keep inflicting emotional or physical pain on someone just for the sake of getting that person to fly off the handle at them. When humans treat other humans this way, they have nasty reasons for doing so. When God treats humans this way, He has very good reasons. Read more of this post

Why You Need to Mock God


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This post is speaking to non-Christians.

What kinds of emotions come to mind when you hear Christians talking about Jesus? Rage? Bitterness? Hate? Think about how you spend your time. Are you going out of your way to mock and insult the Christian God? Are you intensely bothered whenever you hear Christians declaring their love and loyalty to Jesus? Your aggressive behavior is only a surface symptom of a deeper issue. When we find ourselves hating God and feeling a need to mock and slander Him, it is often because we feel that He has wronged us in some terrible way and we’re really just out for revenge. Maybe He did something He was never supposed to do. Maybe He failed to do something that He was supposed to do. Whatever the reason, when God hurts us intensely, where can we go for help? Most of His followers want to sit around saying “God doesn’t do evil.” Well, this doesn’t help you very much, does it? When God crushes us, we need a better explanation than “Sometimes God works in mysterious ways.” Read more of this post

The Benefits of Betrayal: How God Uses Traumatic Experiences to Strengthen Our Bond with Him


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Building a relationship with a nonhuman, all powerful Creator is an entirely different affair than developing a solid friendship with another human being. For one thing, humans are limited, whereas God is unlimited. This greatly changes the kinds of things we can expect to receive in the relationship. You can’t look to a human to satisfy your every need. That would be like trying to pour a gallon’s worth of water out of a single cup. You can’t expect a human to be totally trustworthy or dependable. Humans are frail. They easily crack under pressure. The most noble man could be persuaded to compromise his character under the right circumstances. The most devoted spouse could be tempted into having an affair if they were put under enough strain.

We all have needs which humans are incapable of fulfilling but at first we don’t realize this. We go into human relationships with expectations that are way too high only to end up crushed and disillusioned when people fail us. Once we’ve been badly hurt, we never want to be hurt again. Yet we are extremely needy creatures and our needs cripple us when they continue to go unmet. We MUST find a source that can give us the things we need, and ultimately this is what will drive us to God. Our Creator is the only One who can truly satisfy us. Once we’re told this, we get back out those lofty expectations that we used in human relationships and we expect God to be everything that we want Him to be. But then He’s not. He doesn’t always answer us when we pray, He doesn’t allow us to see Him or sense His Presence in some affirming way. He is far more mysterious and strange than we were expecting. He does things to us which we do not like. Then the day comes when He does something that we REALLY do not like—something that completely violates who we think God should be. Now we feel greatly betrayed and betrayal leads to feelings of hate. If God really loves us, why would He treat us like this? We feel there is no reasonable answer to this question. And yet there is… Read more of this post

Angry at God

Angry at God

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It is not a sin to be angry at God. In fact, He has designed you to react with anger whenever you feel He is being mean, uncaring, and unjust. God heals someone else’s cancer but He won’t heal yours. Anger is the instant result. You really count on some promise God made and then He refuses to keep it. You’re angry. You’re in great financial stress, you pray earnestly for help, and God arranges for you to get fired from your job. You’re angry. You get accused of a crime you didn’t commit, you expect God to back you up, but instead lying witnesses show up in court and you end up with a long sentence of jail time. You’re angry. You read the New Testament and find a bunch of commands that are much too hard to obey, you pray for help, and God won’t give you any. You’re angry. Anger is a natural human response to frustrating, painful, and fearful situations. Anger is often our safe way of expressing deep fears and pain that we’re afraid to face. If you tried to go through life without ever feeling anger, you would end up with some severe physical and psychological problems. God has designed you to need to vent anger just like a volcano venting off pressure through steam vents. You can either vent in controlled bursts or you can try to stuff it all and later erupt to pieces. You don’t get to choose an emotionless life. Anger is part of being human. Read more of this post