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Why We Help the People You Hate


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This is not your typical Christian website. We don’t just regurgitate popular jingles in the Church, we don’t jump onboard with every passing Christian trend, and we don’t encourage you to believe lies about God just because we know it’s what you want to hear. We teach you the truth, regardless of how popular it is, because only by embracing the truth will you thrive in your own relationship with God.

Now there are a lot of truths which people don’t want to hear for various reasons. There are also a lot of truths which are intentionally left unsaid by Christians because Christians are humans and humans are not fans of doling out mercy to those they don’t like. Instead, we like to pretend that God’s grace is only for nice people like ourselves, not for those scumbags over there. Such a mentality results in certain groups of souls being taught that they are unwanted by God. We all have sympathy for the victim of molestation, but the molester himself gets nothing but hate. We mourn and cry over the poor child who was gunned down at school, but we get darn mad if anyone implies the creep who shot the kid is still loved by God. Well, the truth is that God loves all souls.

Christians love to quote John 3:16 and talk about how “God so loved the world,” but they get pretty riled if someone starts actually teaching this truth to certain people in the world who they’ve all agreed to write off as unredeemable scum. On this site, we do not promote the lie that God turns His back on people as swiftly as we humans do. Yes, Hell is real, and so is the concept of God’s patience expiring. But the truth is that His patience doesn’t expire nearly as fast as we often wish it would towards the people we personally hate. There are some very easy ways to tell that God has not yet given up on a tormented soul, and when this is the case, we are going to teach those souls the truth about how much love, grace, and mercy is still available to them. We are going to help them unlearn the lies other Christians have taught them and encourage them to embrace all of the freedom and hope that God is offering them, because if God Himself declares that a soul is still able to come, who are we to contradict Him? As far as God is concerned, no human is trash. No human is worthless. No human is unredeemable or unforgivable.

If you read through enough of our material, you’ll notice that we make a concerted effort to reach out to folks who many would consider to be the dregs of humanity. Where other Christian teachers choose to focus their time and attention on the victims of abuse, we spend a lot of time talking directly to the abusers. Why? Because this is a biased world, and there is way more help available for victims than their abusers. For example, if you’ve been molested, you can find a ton of support groups online. You can find sympathetic counselors. When you’re the victim, everyone feels sorry for you. But if you’re a molester, where can you go? Online you see guys like you getting blasted with hate, insults, and death threats. If you try to see a counselor, that counselor is often required by law to turn you in to the authorities. You get your name forever stuck on some public sex offender list so that you can’t even move into a neighborhood without being immediately condemned and stereotyped.

Now is every molester at a point in his life where he is sincerely seeking God and wanting help? Of course not. But the reality is that many are. So who is going to help them? Who is willing to talk to a dad who is sexually abusing his daughters and recognize that the man needs more than just a lecture on how he shouldn’t be doing what he’s doing? He already knows that what he’s doing is wrong—but then what? In the last 24 hours, you did things you knew you weren’t supposed to do. Should we just rail at you about that for the rest of your life? How is endless harping on your failings going to help your soul?

Abusers and criminals are souls who need help, hope, and love the same as you do. But the reality is that most people just aren’t willing or able to deal with perverts, abusers, murderers, torturers, and other notorious scumbags. We Christians can sometimes become receptive after a guy has cleaned up his life and stopped all of the nasty things he was doing, but most us aren’t willing to get down in the muck with him and start helping him while he’s still up to his neck in sin. Well, God meets us in the muck. He doesn’t stand a million miles away saying, “Don’t talk to Me until you’ve fixed yourself.” No one can fix themselves. We all desperately need God.

The issue of God’s people teaching certain other people that God would never want them is as old as the hills. In the Gospels, we find the Pharisees looking down their noses at Jesus because He hung out with icky prostitutes and tax collectors. Every society has its lists of unpardonable sins, and anyone who commits one of those sins is written off as so much trash. Well, this is not how God operates, and it is God’s perspectives that we promote on this site. God loves all souls. He wants all souls to experience a positive dynamic with Him. He wants all souls to thrive under His care.

So why do we make such an effort to reach out to the people who everyone else has written off? Because God hasn’t written them off. It is because abusers have a way harder time finding help than their victims do that we favor abusers. It’s not that we don’t offer help to victims—we do, but we intentionally reach out to abusers because they are being so frequently kicked to the curb.

It’s fun to hate the people who hurt us in life—our egos love it, and it’s easy to tell ourselves our hate is justified when we go plucking isolated passages of Scripture out of the Bible. Of course if we read the entire book, we’d discover that God takes a very dim view of this merciless hypocrisy that we are constantly dishing out. Christians love to quote the Lord’s Prayer, which is highly ironic since when we say that prayer, we’re asking God to only forgive us to the degree that we forgive others. Then there was Jesus reaming Peter out when Peter tried to ask Jesus if forgiving someone seven times was good enough. Jesus said that no, it certainly wasn’t good enough to put a cap on how merciful we would be towards others. Why not? Because we have all received immeasurable mercy from God (see The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant).

In the Old Testament, we find Yahweh chasing after a rebellious people who are sacrificing their children to idols, wallowing in sexual perversity, murdering in broad daylight, cheating, lying, and raping. It was to a bunch of hardened rebels and sleazy sinners that He said those famous words:

“Come, let us discuss this. Though your sins are like scarlet, they will be as white as snow; though they are as red as crimson, they will be like wool.” (Isa. 1:18)

White as snow, He says. But if we’re honest, many of us don’t want God to give this kind of redemption to those we hate because, well, we feel we ought to decide for God how He judges people.

Did we create ourselves? No. Did we create the people who hurt us? No. Our enemies are not our property, they belong to the One who made them. As the Creator of all humans, God alone gets to decide who He’ll have mercy on and who He won’t. If God wants to throw down endless mercy on the head of some total creep, what is that to you? By choosing to be merciful to your abuser, is God taking back the mercy He’s already given to you? Not hardly. If the pervert gets to go to Heaven, does that mean you’re being forced out? No, it does not. When we find ourselves stewing over the fact that God loves the people we hate, we need to recognize that our own souls are the ones in need of work. We ought to find it quite comforting that the God we’re dealing with personally is the kind of God who so delights in being merciful. We ought to be greatly relieved that God doesn’t allow us to taint His view of other humans. Because when the day comes that you do something so awful that you can’t forgive yourself, guess who is going to be there for you? The same God who you criticized for embracing that pervert or sadist or murderer.

Christians who get mad at God for forgiving the unforgivable have yet to own up to the scope of their own depravity. It’s only after we’ve embraced the utterly arrogant view that our own sins are not so bad that we can arrive at the conclusion that we deserve to be treated so much better than that jerk over there. But this isn’t how God operates. He isn’t living in your bubble of denial. He sees the full scope of your own wretchedness and He chooses to love you anyway. From where He’s standing, you’re not at all some shining star of righteousness compared to the people you love to hate. They’re depraved, and so are you. They’re filled with perverse lusts and evil desires, and so are you. But you’re so busy talking about what’s wrong with the creeps that you’re never getting around to facing what a little creep you are in your own right. Okay, so you never personally molested anyone. Well, whoopee. We could still fill a book with all the ways you’ve hurt other people in life. Anytime you want to mature in the area of mercy, just ask God to help you understand the scope of your own sin. It’s identity that breeds compassion. It’s a denial of our own issues that leads to this self-righteous attitude of, “God, how dare You let that creep into the same Heaven I’m going to!”

God loves all souls. When we find this threatening, it’s for selfish reasons. Sometimes we feel like we’re being ripped off by God loving the people we hate. But God’s love isn’t like a cup of water that can only be shared among a limited number of people. God can love some molester to pieces and that wouldn’t diminish His love for you in anyway. The key to getting freed up of jealous anger is to narrow the focus onto your own walk with God. As a Christian, you are personally having oceans of mercy, grace, forgiveness and love poured down onto your own head. You’ve had all of your sins forgiven. You’ve been eternally accepted by God. You’re going to Heaven when you die. With so many riches heaped into your own lap, what’s it to you if God wants to be gracious to another soul? What does it really matter how He’s treating some other fellow when He’s treating you so wonderfully? That other fellow’s walk with God is his own business. And if God tells us to go talk to that creep over there and explain to him how much love, grace, and mercy is available to him, what’s it to you? If God wants to use us to help some tormented wretch find his way out of despair, what’s it to you? You’ve got what you need: you have established a personal connection with a God who loves you abundantly. There’s a lot we can tell you to help you develop the relationship that you have, but we’re also going to tell that creep over there how he can also move forward with God because God loves you both.

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