Debunking Soul Ties & Soul Fragmentation


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God’s truth is gloriously simple. The way He works with us is so gracious and reasonable. But apparently Christians find His truth too simple and His methods too gracious and reasonable. They get bored. They look over at what the witches and warlocks are doing and they get jealous. Magic potions? How come we don’t get to have any of that? Someone cooks up some holy water—ha, now we have potions, too. Family curses? How come we don’t get to have any of those? Someone comes up with the theory of generational curses and now we get to play magic games, too. You see, God tells us that when He has a problem with us, He’ll tell us very clearly through internal conviction. He won’t leave us bumbling around in fear. He won’t start beating on us without explanation. God is so gracious and kind and good. But we’re the little brats who can’t appreciate how good our Father is so we have to go next door and play with His enemies. We prefer the company of demons over God. We like getting all worked up on their horror stories. We like the way they knock us onto the ground and make us convulse during our slaying sessions. We want to believe in dark magic. We want to think we have the power to curse and cure ourselves. We don’t like this bit about God getting to control everything. WE want to control something. We like to imitate the psychics by wandering through a house “sensing” for dark vibes in the atmosphere using our powerful gift of discernment. We think we’re cool when we have a dramatic demonic encounter. The warlocks have names for their spirits, well so do we. In fact, we even map the strongholds of demons and we imagine them falling down as we sit in a circle at church praying our powerful prayers. The warlocks boast about their magical prowess, well so do we. We’re prayer warriors and prophetic intercessors. We can do everything they do. We aren’t going to be left out.

This is the stupidity of the modern Church. And once we’re being driven by this desperate craving for a world filled with magical principles that we can manipulate all on our own, we’re going to open up the Bible and dredge up some “proof” that what we want to be true is true. Christians think that quoting Scripture is tantamount to saying, “See? God says I’m right!” And this is their idea of good application: word searches. Just yank out any Scripture that uses the same word you’re talking about and that will “prove” that whatever you’re saying about that word is correct. This is what people do to try and scrape up biblical backup for the ridiculous theory of soul ties and soul fragmentation. They look up any occasion where two people’s souls are being referred to, then they say, “Ha! It’s evidence of a soul tie!” No, actually, it’s just evidence that you have cotton for brains if you think that there is any biblical support for the theory of soul ties. This is just one more in a long line of games we have invented to imitate the occult because we are so pathetically disloyal to God. If He hates it, we embrace it, then we try to say the Bible tells us we’re justified in doing so.


Now the term “soul tie” isn’t in the Bible. No surprise there. But what we do find is a lot of metaphors, exaggeration, and figures of speech. The Hebrew writers weren’t any different than we are today: they used the same words to mean many different things. They said many things that weren’t meant to be taken literally. When King Saul goes into a cave to “cover his feet,” he’s urinating.

And he came to the sheepcotes by the way, where was a cave; and Saul went in to cover his feet: and David and his men remained in the sides of the cave. (1 Sam. 24:3)

When Yahweh says He will use the king of Assyria to shave people’s heads and the “hair of the feet”, He’s talking about people getting their pubic hair shaved by invading soldiers.

On that day Yahweh will use a razor hired from beyond the Euphrates River—the king of Assyria—to shave the head, the hair of the feet, and to remove the beard as well. (Isa. 7:20)

When Elijah is doing his famous contest on Mt. Carmel and he mockingly suggests that the unresponsive Baal has “gone aside”, he means Baal is off relieving himself somewhere and that’s why he doesn’t hear his desperate prophets pleading for him to make fire fall down from the sky.

At noon Elijah mocked them, saying, “Cry aloud, for he is a god; either he is musing, or he has gone aside, or he is on a journey, or perhaps he is asleep and must be awakened.” (1 Ki. 18:27)

Cultural idioms are all throughout the Bible, as are words with multiple definitions. The term “heaven” is sometimes used to refer to the eternal dimension of Heaven, but far more often it is a reference to the sky, the universe, or simply “up there somewhere.”

In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. (Gen. 1:1)

If we want to talk like idiots, we can use this verse to argue that there are actually multiple Heavens—multiple eternal paradises. Yet clearly this is not what is being said. Here “heavens” is a reference to the universe around the planet earth.

“Understand that I am bringing a flood—floodwaters on the earth to destroy every creature under heaven with the breath of life in it. Everything on earth will die.” (Gen. 6:17)

Here “under heaven” simply means “under what we humans call the sky”. God isn’t suggesting the eternal dimension of Heaven is hovering just above planet Earth. We have to read with discernment.

But the Angel of Yahweh called to him from heaven and said, “Abraham, Abraham!” He replied, “Here I am.” (Gen. 22:11)

What is this? Is there some kind of magical sound system hook up that runs from Earth to the eternal dimension of Heaven? No, here all that Moses is saying is that Abraham heard a Voice calling down from somewhere above him—down from the sky.

Immediately I was in the Spirit, and a throne was set there in Heaven. (Rev. 4:2)

Here John is talking about actually seeing into the eternal dimension of Heaven—a place that is totally separate from Earth. But throughout Revelation, we’ll find multiple uses of the term heaven, because it’s a busy little word.


The term “soul” is busy as well. In the Bible and in the Church today, people use “soul” to describe many different things. Sometimes it’s used to mean the eternal spirit of a man—the part of him that will go on to eternity when he dies. Other times it’s used as a synonym for heart, emotion, or feelings. You can’t just look up the term “soul” in the Bible and think you’re going to get some deep education about how our spiritual selves operate. You have to be discerning. You have to really pause to think about which definition of “soul” is being used.

But from there, you will search for the Lord your God, and you will find Him when you seek Him with all your heart and all your soul. (Deut. 4:29)

So what is being meant by soul here? Well, the Hebrew word here is “nephesh”. This same word in the Bible is used to mean the following things:

any, anyone, appetite, being, beings, body, breath, corpse, creature, creatures, dead, dead person, deadly, death, defenseless, desire, discontented, endure, feelings, fierce, greedy, heart, heart’s, herself, himself, human, human being, hunger, life, lifeblood, lives, living creature, longing, man, men, mind, myself, number, ones, others, ourselves, own, passion, people, perfume, person, persons, slave, some, soul, souls, strength, themselves, thirst, throat, will, wish, wishes, yourself, yourselves

So which of these definitions should you put in Deut. 4:29? Look at this list and decide for yourself. That’s all the Bible translators are doing. Each Hebrew word has a list of many possible definitions and they try to pick which one seems to make the most sense in each case. We know that God wants us to love Him with all that we are. “With all your heart and soul” is a figurative way of getting this point across. You’re not supposed to dissect the thing to death. You’re supposed to flow with the mood of the entire passage and listen for the main points God is making.

Now those who want you to believe in soul ties have Bible verses that they claim “prove” that soul ties exist. Hogwash. All it proves is that they are ignoring the fact that the term “soul” in the Bible is being used so many different ways. Let’s take a look at some key soul tie verses.

And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” (1 Sam. 18:1)

This is the King James Version, which uses outdated English. More modern translations write this same passage like this:

When David had finished speaking with Saul, Jonathan committed himself to David, and loved him as much as he loved himself. (1 Sam. 18:1)

Is this really about soul ties? Not hardly. What we have here is exaggeratory language being used to make the point that David and Jonathan had a very deep friendship. Did Johnathan really love David as much as his own soul? Of course not. Jonathan was as selfish as the rest of us and he loved himself more than anyone else. But he also loved David intensely. The two young men were like the best of friends. And let’s not overlook the fact that this commitment was made in a very emotionally charged situation. David has just killed Goliath and saved the whole nation of Israel from terrifying slavery to the Philistines. The young David is suddenly a national hero. In gratitude, King Saul has just made David a permanent installment in the royal household. Saul’s son Jonathan is close to David’s age and the two hit it off instantly. So they make this “friends forever” type of pact. Kids still do this today: they hit it off and swear that they will always be true. In the case of David and Jonathan, the promises lasted because Jonathan died so young. The writer of 1 Samuel didn’t know David or Jonathan personally, but he knows the stories of how these two men were so loyal to each other so he gives us this dramatic description of Jonathan’s personal feelings. He can’t see into Jonathan’s heart. He doesn’t know what he was really feeling. He’s projecting. He’s writing about famous people who shaped Israel’s history and he’s filling in a lot of emotion that seems appropriate. We do this today when we write biographies of famous people. No one wants to read about just the dry facts—people want a juicy, emotive story. So writers fill in the emotion as they go along. Some try to be accurate, some are sloppy, but the point is that it’s all projection because no one can see into anyone else’s mind.

So what does all this have to do with soul ties? A soul tie is supposed to be when your spirit becomes physically linked to another person’s spirit, thus binding you to them like two dogs who have been leashed together. To justify this absurd theory, people dig through the Bible and pull out any passage in which a strong emotional bond is being described between two people. Here’s another favorite:

“Haven’t you read,” He replied, “that He who created them in the beginning made them male and female,” and He also said: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must not separate.” (Matt. 19:4-6)

Is Jesus promoting soul ties in this passage? No, He’s accusing the divorce-happy Jews of treating marriage too flippantly. He goes on to explain that God always wanted marriage to be a permanent commitment. But because people are such carnal twerps, He allowed for them to get divorced in certain circumstances.

He told them, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of the hardness of your hearts. But it was not like that from the beginning. And I tell you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” (Matt. 19:8-9)


Sex is a special thing. It is an intensely sensual experience. We humans are sensual beings, and any intense sensual experience leaves a lasting impact on us. If you get hit by a car, you will have exceptional recall of the experience for much longer than you will of other, less charged experiences. If you get stripped down naked in public and laughed at, you will feel intense emotions and once again your memory of that experience will stick with you for much longer. If you even dream about being naked in public, the dream will stick with you longer than other dreams that centered around less emotionally disturbing material. There’s really nothing mystical about it: we’re very delicate beings and we are very affected by things that greatly arouse us in either positive or negative ways.

Now sex involves many emotionally charged elements: being naked, experiencing intense neural feedback from very sensitive parts of your body, and—if you’re doing it God’s way—you’re supposed to be also focusing on your deep love for the person you’re having sex with. But let’s get real. Today most people are doing sex like animals in heat do: hopping in bed with virtual strangers, getting their release, and trying to go on like nothing happened. It doesn’t work because God has designed sex to be such an intense experience. You can’t just shrug it off like the memory of what you had for lunch last Tuesday. Memories of your sexual flings stick with you and they bother you. Whenever something bothers us, there’s a chance to over-dramatize things and imitate the occult. This is where soul ties come in. Instead of simply acknowledging that sex is an intense sensual/emotional/psychological experience and that all such experiences lodge themselves into our brains and take time to recover from, some magic hungry Christians promote the theory of soul ties. No, you’re not just having a normal psychological reaction to an intensely stimulating experience. Your soul has been bound  to whoever it was you slept with. (Cue the haunted house music.) Now you will have to whip out some magic spells to try and break the scary curse. And what are those spells? Well, here we always run back to that same tiresome refrain of “confess your sins and rebuke it in Jesus’ Name.”


Let’s look at some more verses that the soul tie advocates like to use. In order to suck you into their game, they have to paint soul ties as a terribly frightening thing. Here’s where they say you become defiled if you get your soul tied with someone.

“And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul cleaved unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spoke kindly unto the damsel.” (Genesis 34:2-3)

Things always sound more dramatic in the KJV. But who goes around saying “my soul cleaved” today? Let’s look at a version that’s actually up to date with modern English:

When Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, a prince of the region, saw her, he took her and raped her. He became infatuated with Dinah, daughter of Jacob. He loved the young girl and spoke tenderly to her. (Gen. 34:2-3)

All that’s being described here is some lusty creep named Shechem raping a Jewish woman. After he rapes her, he decides he wants to marry her. Dinah’s brothers are the twelve men who the tribes of Israel are named after. Her two brothers Simon and Levi are so outraged by their sister getting raped that they cook up a cunning little plan of revenge. First they agree to Prince Shechem’s request that Dinah marry him. But then they say that Shechem and all his men have to be circumcised first, because that’s the Jewish way. Shechem must have really have it bad for Dinah, because he agrees to mutilate himself on her behalf. Now three days later when Shechem and all his male followers are still feeling very sore in sensitive places, Dinah’s two brothers bust in on them and chop everyone down with their swords. A very clever ruse. What does this have to do with soul ties? Nothing.

Terms like “defiled” and “unclean” are common terms in the Old Testament. They were ways of determining one’s current status with Yahweh. If you were defiled, it meant you’d been involved in something that was a violation of His holy Covenant, and therefore you were considered an outcast by those who were “clean” until you got back into good standing with Yahweh. Sometimes you couldn’t get back into good standing—if a Jewish child cursed his parents, he was supposed to be executed. If a Jewish woman was found doing witchcraft, she was supposed to be executed. Now the Old Covenant wasn’t in effect in Genesis, but Genesis was written by Moses and Moses writes things down from his point of view. Yahweh was God’s Covenant Name that was first revealed to Moses—so why do we find guys like Abraham, Jacob, and Adam calling God Yahweh in Genesis? Yahweh specifically says that no one in Genesis used His Covenant Name, yet we find that Name all throughout Genesis because that’s what Moses called God and Moses is writing the book. See how it works? The Bible isn’t some magic book that fell down from the sky one day. It was written by human beings and it’s filled with human bias, human exaggeration, and human foolishness.

Today God isn’t going to say you’re defiled because the Old Covenant concepts of clean and unclean have been thrown out. Today you’ve either been eternally accepted by God, or you’re on your way to Hell. Today you’re either obeying God or you’re rebelling. There’s none of this guff about curses hanging on you or demons trailing you or soul ties defiling you because of things you’ve done in the past. If God has a beef with you today, He will tell you about it today, and He will also show you how to immediately return to a good place with Him. There is no power in you sitting around confessing every wrong thing you ever did. Trying to use the confession of sins like some magic spell is utterly absurd. You shouldn’t be confessing anything unless God is telling you to, and He will never tell you to confess all of your sins. There are simply too many of them. God wants you to acknowledge that you are a sinner, but He has no use for you sitting around jotting down long lists of your specific failings. As you go along in life, the Holy Spirit will bring specific sins to your mind that He wants to address with you. But the vast majority of your sins will go unmentioned and you’ll never come close to seeing just how depraved you really are. This is how merciful God is: He doesn’t grind your face 24/7 into the muck of all the terrible things you’ve done. That’s what Satan does. Satan is the one who wants to harp on your bad choices for the rest of your life. Satan is the one who wants you to think there is some creepy curse spiritually binding you to any person you’ve sinned with. It’s all a bunch of rot. Each soul stands alone before God. Each soul will be judged by how they personally responded to His conviction in their lives. We all sin every day.


You need to be on your guard against any theory that tries to attribute magical powers to you and to the general universe. The theory of soul ties promotes the idea of you stumbling into some cursed situation by doing something you weren’t supposed to do. What happened to God’s intimate involvement in your life? What happened to God telling you that He has a problem with you? You shouldn’t have to go on the internet to figure out why God is mad at you. If He was really mad at you, you would know exactly why and exactly what you needed to do to fix it because HE WOULD TELL YOU. He isn’t going to leave you groping in the dark until you come across some idiot Christian who gives you the six step cure for snapping those soul ties. Here’s one condensed version of a formula that we found for breaking soul ties:

1. Repent of any sins you committed which caused this soul tie to form.

Do you even know what it means to repent? Most Christians don’t. Repentance is when we turn from a state of spiritual REBELLION back to a state of spiritual ALIGNMENT with God. It is a change in SOUL ATTITUDE. Repentance is ONLY appropriate for those who are CURRENTLY in a state of REBELLION. If you’re in rebellion, then your bottom line attitude is: “I don’t care what You want, God, I’m doing life my way.” Alignment is when your soul attitude is: “God, pleasing You is more important than pleasing myself. I want You to have Your way in my life.” Which camp are you in? You’re always in one or the other—there is no third option. Repentance is ONLY appropriate if you are in rebellion TODAY. If you’re already aligned with God, then no change in soul attitude is required, therefore repentance becomes a meaningless, hypocritical activity. So many Christian teachers are trying to drive sincere Christians into constant repentance when it isn’t appropriate. This is an abuse of their leadership roles, and it is annoying to God. Do not let other Christians tell you when you need to repent of something. GOD tells you when you need to repent, because repentance is about fixing your wrong attitude towards GOD. Repentance has nothing to do with changing the past, fixing the future, or creating good magic in your life. Repentance is about you deciding to stop the bratty tantrum and become an obedient child once again. If you’re already in obedient child mode then DON’T REPENT.

2. Get rid of any material things that could symbolize the other person’s presence in your life.

This is utterly ridiculous advice that is nothing more than pagan superstition. Physical objects do not have mystical powers. Let’s not be like the sorcerers with their stupid wands or the idiotic mediums who peer into their crystal balls. We are Christians. We’re supposed to be focusing on God, not turning everything we own into a magical toy. You get rid of things when GOD tells you to get rid of things, not because you’re buying into some theory that material things have godlike powers.

3. Renounce any rash vows or commitments that you made (such as “I will love you forever”) and repent in the Name of Jesus.

Again notice how you’re being told to repent. The person who supplied us with this “expert” advice didn’t make any mention of seeking God or asking Him for direction. Nope, it’s just get out the spell book and follow the steps to cook up the special potion of good karma. This bit about renouncing your words is nothing more than a promotion of the idea that spoken words have great power. This is a very popular New Age theory that has been widely accepted by the Church and, like all theories that we borrow from demons, it’s complete rubbish (see The Power of the Spoken Word).

4. Forgive any grudges you’re holding against that person!

Is holding grudges bad for us? Of course. It doesn’t form soul ties, but clinging to anger definitely drags us down. That said, it is not always an option for you to forgive. You need God’s help to really let go of the past, and He’s not always interested in giving you that help as soon as you want it.

5. Renounce the soul tie. Do this verbally, and in Jesus’ Name. Example, “In Jesus’ Name, I now renounce any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and ______ as a result of _______________ (fornication, etc.).”

There is no soul tie, and your vocal chords do not have supernatural power, so this bit of advice is utterly ridiculous.

6. Break the soul tie in Jesus’ Name! Do this verbally using your authority in Jesus. Example, “I now break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _________ as a result of ______________ (fornication, etc.) in Jesus’ Name.”

Notice how many times we’re being told to fling around the Name of Jesus in these six steps. Today Christians are encouraged to view the word “Jesus” like some universal, potent spell that we can use to make God do what we want. “Get away from me, devil, IN JESUS’ NAME! Cure my friend IN JESUS’ NAME! I now command the universe to do my bidding, IN JESUS’ NAME!”

Here’s where we need a big slice of reality pie. You are not Harry Potter, the powerful wizard who everyone trembles before. You’re a pathetic dot of a human and the whole universe is ignoring you. Go ahead, command the molecules. Tell them to form a sandwich on your plate for lunch. Order the car that’s poking down the road in front of you to get out of your way in the Name of Jesus. The universe doesn’t care what you want. Created things don’t take orders from you. God is the One running this place, and you won’t see the day that He sits around serving you. This is truth: you don’t have ANY authority in Jesus. You don’t have any authority period. JESUS has Authority, and you won’t see the day He gives any of it to you. Would you give a toddler a can of ant poison? Why not? Because the child is far too ignorant to handle the thing right and she’ll end up spraying a cloud of poison in her own face. In the same way, were you to ever get your hands on one drop of God’s power, you’d run amuck with it and spend it on some foolish self-serving venture that would only bring great harm to you and others. So God doesn’t give you or anyone else any of His power and for that we should all be eternally grateful.

You’ll be hard pressed to find leaders in the Church today who really care about the state of your soul. Most of them only care about using you to further their own selfish ventures and to confirm their own demonic delusions. This is why they’re always pushing you to put your trust in lies and to engage in activities which will only lead you away from the truth. Listen to these idiots and you’ll only end up wasting precious time. The point of life is to pursue an intimate relationship with our three glorious Creators. We aren’t here to play witches and warlocks. We’re supposed to be humbly serving God, not spending our lives trying to find ways to pretend we’re His equals by claiming we can speak curses and cures into existence. We’re supposed to be asking Him to align us with His agenda instead of constantly ordering Him to do what we want. So take the theory of soul ties and soul fragmentation and dump it into your mental wastebasket. It’s just more rot from demons. Any teachers who promote such foolishness are clearly listening to demons. Do you want to follow a blind man through a minefield? Don’t listen to teachers who promote Christianized versions of sorcery. Ask God to show you His truth and to teach you how to live in a way that honors Him.